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So! Sarah left a comment at mamazine asking for advice on keeping her household running as she adds another member to her family. She’s got three boys, who are being joined by a little sister (congratulations Sarah!), and she’d like them to continue to arrive at school on time, get through their homework every day, eat meals, go to bed at bedtime, that kind of thing.
I want to have something brilliant to tell her. Really I do. But I’m mostly useless—partly because living on minimal sleep fries my brain a little, and partly because I don’t know what I’m doing here half the time (hence the clever blog title).
So I thought I’d ask all of you lovelies to offer your best suggestions. Bernadette suggests making bedtime a priority, which makes sense. I have these couple of gems to add:
Be Lame.
Cut back on whatever you need to. Really. If your seven-year-old doesn’t play soccer (or softball or basketball or chess or girl scouts or whatever) this season, it’s not going to affect her ability to eventually drop out of college and go pro. And really, do you want her doing that anyway?
Be Boring.
Make up a routine to handle some of the details. Thinking of meals was more than I could manage after Sadie was born, so we’ve gone to a weekly meal plan. As in, every Monday night we eat soup, every Tuesday night we eat a roasted vegetable dish, every Wednesday night we eat… blah blah blah. Like that. Saturdays are the bonus not-scheduled night. Yes, I’d rather be spontaneous and creative with food, but I’d also like to only have to grocery shop once a week and then know we have meals ready to prepare. Easy wins over creative. For food. For now.
That’s all from me; what have you got?








If there’s anything I have been able to “master” as a parent, it’s being lame!
Though I have great admiration for your ability to be lame with 4!
Oh yes, I have that special ability to be lame ALL the time, not just when we have a new baby.
This time (my third time around) I was actually lucky enough to be able to have friends offer to help me – so if someone offers to bring you a meal or drive your kids to school for you, don’t feel silly about it, TAKE THEM UP ON THEIR OFFER!!!
It really made a difference this time and the nice thing is you can pass in on my making the nice gesture when you have a friend with a baby or that is sick and needs help. Don’t feel like you have to do it all on your own.
oops I meant “by” making not “my” making. that’s what I get for typing while nursing!
Sari– is there any other way to type? I thought nursing went with typing in sort of a permanent fashion.
No help here, as you know you are my go to person for parenting for ONE advice! But congrats to everyone and their lots of babies!
Also I just recently found a lovely email from you in my junk folder about a comment Owen said regarding one of the new tees. I wanted to thank you but I was scared to respond a year later after that one post you had about taking so long to respond to emails
Cara!!! You know I always love replies. I don’t care when they are. I just feel like an idiot responding or not responding or whatever myself. I’m email impaired. You are not.
I like the meal plan idea; I may have to try that! And, yes, I just have one but still use all of your sage advice!!
I only have two but here is my assvice.
1. Have a routine for everything that happens. I actually have one typed up. I have 4 weeks of menus and I have matching shopping lists. No one remembers that they had the same thing 3 weeks ago. I know when I get up what I am supposed to do that day.
2. Get up showered and dressed before your kids. Every day is better if you are dressed.
3. Know that some days none of that will help. Forgive yourself and try again tomorrow.
I can never manage #2. The earlier I get up, the earlier they wake up. What’s that about? I’m not that noisy, I swear.