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I’m a big believer in letting my kids see me fail. I think it’s important to model making mistakes, especially should you happen to be raising a child (or two) with perfectionist tendencies. Ahem.
So I try new crafts that take several attempts to master. I paint grandiose pictures that will never look like what they’re supposed to. (“It was going to be a portrait of Martha Washington! And now it’s… an elephant! Under a blanket!”) I plant seeds that will never turn into beautifully-trimmed hedges, because my thumbs are not so much green. (And a few runner beans too, because an entirely barren garden would just be depressing.)
Today I took out the Jumping Pixies game (new! for Christmas!) to show that it could still be fun, even if I could never ever even once catapult a little pixie head into the appropriate circle. And I may have demonstrated that. I don’t really know.
But after a good dozen attempts that resulted in exactly zero points scored, Abigail pointed out in her most diplomatic, matter-of-fact voice that I was, as it turned out, the single worst Jumping Pixies player she had ever seen, possibly in the whole world, and that the game might be more fun for the rest of them if I went and did something else.
So clearly my parenting strategy is working.
Now if I could just come up with a method for teaching them not to point out my obvious shortcomings, we’d be set.




I wonder if this would work for parents of single children? I might try it. I love your new banner, by the way.
Thanks, Kate!
Proceed to follow my lead at your own risk– I’m making this stuff up as I go along! Hence the blog title.
I found this post through a search for “perfectionism blog mom” – I’m a perfectionist mom and am trying to learn not to be, and doing her best to make sure my daughter doesn’t turn into one. I enjoyed your post.
Go, imperfection! (Um, that was a cheer. In case it wasn’t obvious to people not able to hear what’s going on inside my head.)