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We’re sort of crunchy-granola natural-ish around here when it comes to our health. At least I think we are. But you know what? It is way easier to ascribe to a hands-off philosophy when everything’s going well than when things are a little off. I can confidently say, “eh, who needs Tylen0l for a fever, let the body do its thing” when no one has a fever, but the second someone gets sick, I start second-guessing that whole plan. Just for example.
And when I’m pregnant, I’m usually able to look rationally at routine tests and logically decide whether we want them. How accurate is the test? How reliable? Is there some reason to think I might need it? Will the results change the course of care we choose? And then we make a decision based on that information. And that works for us, usually. But usually I’m normal and healthy and boring.
So right now I’m having a hard time figuring out what the logical choices are. We can’t find anything amiss (my thyroid is quite functional, I’m sure you’re glad to hear), but as it turns out—and perhaps you already knew this—no matter how physically comfortable you are (or aren’t), nobody likes to be 43 weeks pregnant, even if you don’t necessarily believe in the numbers anymore. No caregiver, no matter how laid-back and trust-your-body-ish, likes for your chart to read 43 weeks pregnant. Suddenly a whole bunch of new informed consent forms make an appearance; we have to get or refuse tests and procedures we’ve never even been offered before. I’m finding this a little bit stressful.
And one of our midwives is supposed to go away for a month, starting this Thursday. We were supposed to have delivered by now, so she would have had plenty of time to be at the birth and the postpartum visits before taking off on her very-cool-sounding adventure. Except we haven’t delivered yet. And, um, I want her to be at the birth. Sigh.
Today we were joking about having a Halloween baby—it’s only two weeks away! And wouldn’t our older kids be irked! They may end up irked anyway—I’m not taking a less-than-two-week-old out on the town for our usual parade of grandparent visits and parties.
Hmm. I don’t think this post is going anywhere. I’ll summarize like this: I’m cool with letting things happen when and how they happen, but I wish I had some more idea of what that’s going to look like. And I wish I had an alarm bell that would go off if I needed to do something in the meantime. (Does fetal heart rate count as an alarm bell? Because it’s doing just fine. Not alarming at all.)




Let’s hope your acceptance of this whole thing makes Baby give up on the stalling and try a different tactic to challenge you. Because, really, you know that’s what this is all about. They start so young…
I’m so sorry you’re stressed. Would chocolate meringues help?
Chocolate meringues always help. In fact, they’re helping right now.
Ok, now I’m sure you’ve considered this, but are you sure about your due date? Is it possible it’s off?
And look at it this way — you’re one special woman for making it to 43 weeks – how many women do that?
Yay to you and your midwives for sticking it out and NOT panicking and planning an induction. Just keep doing what you’re doing… and of course, you know all those “natural” ways to give things a jumpstart, right? Walking, sex, spicy food, etc…
Sometimes they really do work… can’t hurt, could help.
Hang in there.
43 weeks? Good lord, you poor thing. Baby, come out!
We’re rather hoping that the dates are off. Because 41 weeks is usual for me, but 43 weeks is not. And we can’t find any other good reason not to be in labor yet.
But an induction is out of the question, unless some specific problem crops up. And even then, an at-home induction involves a bit of castor oil and AROM– not scheduled pitocin or anything!
Best laid plans… or best-laid mother?
Sorry… some days the inner frat boy just will not be suppressed.
I hope you pop soon!
Ooo..I understand the “waiting for baby to arrive” feeling..I had tat too..I kept “expecting” my baby to “pop out” anytime from 38 week..but she arrvive somewhere near 41 week…dun be to stressed..go for a walk…it does help..
43 weeks?!!! I’m uncomfortable just thinking about it. But dear Melissa, I have the utmost faith in your ability to know when react.
I’m the same way w/my crunchiness (although I think I’m a lot lower on the crunchy scale) but it’s so true – it’s easy to be that way when there is nothing to worry about. And I worry about everything, but hey, I do avoid the tylenol!
Thanks, Mama C-ta.
oh my goodness, i hope that baby comes soon! i’m sure everything is ok, but I know it’s uncomfortable for you.
Did you notice I didn’t ask today when I talked to you? That’s not cuz I don’t care, just cuz I figured you’d tell me if anything was happening. You certainly don’t need any advice, mama of 3 and an any-day-now, but know you have much support and empathy!! Good thoughts, good thoughts…
Thanks, Megan! Yeah, I’m unlikely to forget to mention if there’s any change. Though I suppose I’m unlikely to answer the phone if there is, so you can just take my answering as a sign that we’ve not yet encountered labor!
I made it a day shy of 42 weeks with my third, but this was with an EDD based on ovulation. Had I gone with the “typical” LMP due date, I’d have baked her 45 weeks! Joy of irregular cycles… (or rather, regular, but just not textbook length, but I’m sure I’m far over the TMI line by now. Sorry!)
I’ve been thinking about you so much and hope that this minute you are in labor, but hang in there if you’re not. I’m glad the fetal heart rate is fine. It’s going to be a stubborn little one, isn’t it?
I came home from work today to find Melissa unconscious on the floor and loonymom’s comment open… just kidding, but 45 weeks, yikes! I hope they gave you a medal or something.
No medal, just a girl (finally!). But if it’s any consolation, labor was so speedy, almost made it worth the wait …
Praying for the same (or, uh, similar anyway. Not the 45 weeks, just the easy labor).
oh my gosh. not yet! i was sure baby would be here by now. sending lots of good *come out, come out* vibes your way.
Lack of posting a good thing?? xoxo