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Mama C-ta asked:
“…I am curious to know what kind of vitamins you take – well, when you aren’t throwing up. If I had to do the pregnancy bit again I think I’d want to skip the Dr Rx prenatals and go w/something better…
Oh and I’ve been meaning to ask you if you had/will have a home birth.”
First, the easy one (er, the one where I’m sure I won’t inadvertently offend anyone): the vitamins. Right now, I’ve got a bottle of wild oats store brand prenatal vitamins, vegetarian formula, no allergens. But when I’ve got a couple of extra grocery dollars lying around, I do buy a food-based prenatal (something like this).
And on to the birth question. I’m surprised I haven’t mentioned it before, but yes, all of our children have been born at home, with the assistance of our lovely and talented midwives.
When people learn that we birth at home, the response is almost always: “You’re so brave,” said in a tone that suggests “brave” might be a synonym for “foolish.” So I’ll tell you right now: we are not brave. Not by a long shot. We do, however, believe in evidence-based care—that is, we make decisions about our health care based on the best available research; we don’t do things just because they’re routine, or because the malpractice insurer thinks it best, or because an HMO will pay for this option but not that one.
The “brave” comment is typically followed up with: “And you’re so lucky that everything turned out all right!” I have been blessed, it is true, with less-difficult labors. But lucky? Depending on whose numbers you prefer, 80-95% of labors in this country would result in healthy deliveries without any intervention whatsoever. I’m not lucky, I’m typical.
Then, depending on who’s asking, I get either a litany of what if’s, or a long and detailed explanation of why the person asking couldn’t have had a home birth herself.
The what-if’s would be better directed at a midwife, as the answers often depend on your local regulations (the ease and speed of emergency transfer, for instance, depends on your medical community’s attitude toward midwives and out-of-hospital birth; for another example, how a midwife would deal with various minor complications might depend on what medications or equipment she’s legally permitted or required to carry).
As to whether anyone else can or should give birth at home: I believe that given the opportunity, folks will generally make the best choices available for their unique circumstances—which means that I’m not especially invested in where anyone else gives birth, though I’m always willing to provide information.
On that note, should you wish to do further research on the subject:
A Good Birth, A Safe Birth (Third Revised Edition), by Diana Korte and Roberta M. Scaer
Thinking Woman’s Guide to a Better Birth, by Henci Goer
Complete Book of Pregnancy and Childbirth (Revised), by Sheila Kitzinger
Citizens for Midwifery (especially the Resources page)
American College of Obstetrics & Gynecology’s statement in opposition to out-of-hospital birth (gee, no surprise there), followed by the American College of Nurse-Midwives’ response
Those of you who also birth at home: do other resources or articles of interest spring to mind? Feel free to link in the comments section.
And now, I’ll open the floor to questions, comments, and general conversation. (Now, watch, no one will comment at all…)




Great links. If I had a dollar for every stranger who felt the need to give me detailed reasons why they cannot a. homebirth and b. homeschool, I’d be … well, I’d have some pocket money at least. I’ve been thinking of going the Mormon route and making up little tracts: “So, you think you can’t homeschool?” “Could you ever birth at home?” Not that they’d get read, but they would save me from that, “Uhhhhh….” moment.
Well, sorry, I can’t argue.
I have not had a homebirth, either time. The first time, it was because I was 22 and not especially into the whole research-and-thought thing. No one in my family had homebirthed, so no one was encouraging me to look into it, so fine. Emily probably would’ve been fine, born at home, but I don’t regret the hospital, either.
Plus we had an apartment at the time and I’d have been scared of messing up the carpets and losing the security deposit.
And the second time, the possibility had been bandied about… but for one thing, Jacob was breach, thus increasing the chance of complications, and for another, I really, really liked my epidural with Emily and was all for trying that again. He ended up being an emergency C-section.
Kids are so much trouble, sometimes.
Seriously, though – it always surprises me when I am surprised about how judgmental and intense people get. No matter what path you take, someone’s going to be offended by it. (“VEGETARIAN vitamins?!? How dare you suggest that my cow-fat vitamins are…”)
I posted! And explained Why I Homebirth! Complete with a Hospital Tour!
You can thank me later.
I posted! And got the link wrong! So here it is without those fancy schmacy tags!
http://thespicechoir.blogspot.com/2007/04/homebirth.html
Rebecca: Pamphlets! That had never occurred to me, though I have considered stocking up on used copies of informative books. Pamphlets would be easier to carry. More practical. Also more zealot-like. Hmm.
And Kate: You’re right, I have totally offensive vitamins. And did you notice how I said “no allergens”? Practically accusing other women of dooming their children to a life of allergic reactions! What was I thinking?
And Heather: Oh dear!
Heather’s post has much more about WHY one might choose to birth at home, along with other books she found helpful.
Here’s a study from the British Medic al Journal I just saw on The Lactivist (in the archives): http://www.bmj.com/cgi/content/full/330/7505/1416?ehom
Conclusion: Home birth (for low-risk labors) has similar infant mortality rates to low-risk hospital births, but with a 3.7% chance of caesarian, rather than…30%.
Weeee! I got my very own post! Thanks for the linkage and info.
You’re so brave.
Sorry, I couldn’t resist but I could never have a home birth because…
Gotcha again!
But seriously I admire those who have home birthed b/c they did what I wish I did! I had one of those “safe hospital births” you know, the kind that result in an emergency c-section. But with that said, our last house – totally cluttered, very stressful for me was not exactly where I wanted to birth. But this house? The perfect, perfect home birthing house, I must say. But being a VBAC, brings out a whole new level of difficulty convincing the husband.
Ha, I talk like I’m having more kids. Off to check out Heather’s post.
Mama C-ta: Oh, in that case, maybe I’ll just come have this baby at your house. And then you can watch my kids while I stay in bed for a couple weeks! Yes?
And I’m sure you know this link, but in case not: there’s plenty of info on vbac at http://www.ican-online.org/ (though not specifically homebirth; I think there’s more on Citizens for Midwifery’s Resources page).